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How to write a Maid of Honor Speech

So, you want to know how to write a Maid of Honor speech; congratulations on your appointment!  In this article we will give you  some hints and tips on what to include, and a couple of formats (short and long) to get your writing juices flowing.

On we go….

First things first – Short or long speech

There are millions of ways to approach the speech writing, but we find step 1 is just to decide if you are going to be a long or a short person.  Deciding that will narrow down your options and make it easier to focus.

You know how you feel and you know your personality.  Do you like to talk and like to write?

Here we give you an example outline for both short and long versions.

Writing a Good Maid of Honor Speech (Short format)

Introduction

You can get off to a great start that sets you up for the rest of your delivery.

For example, writing an introduction with non-emotional connectivity  is opening with “Hi, I’m Sandra, and I am Jane’s Maid of Honor”. That’s straight, to the point and factual, but is it really triggering the audience’s emotions of why Sandra is the MOH? Nope!

How about this?……

how to write a maid of honor speech

“Hi, I’m Sandra, and I’ve been lucky enough to know this fabulous lady ever since our first day at kindergarten”.

This second version (and there can be a thousand others that work just as well) conveys several positive implications in just one sentence.

1) You self-reflective good fortune at knowing the bride. You show that you have thoughtfully considered your relationship and concluded that Jane adds wonderful things to your life.

2) That you consider Jane to be wonderful in her own right. She may well add value to your life, but apart from that Jane gives goodness to the world.

3) That Jane is well mannered and rather elegant (you use the word lady)……everyone is going to love this unless Jane is blatantly the opposite.

4) That your relationship is solid, deep, and long-lasting. Clearly that is why you are the MOH! Most of the audience will know you are the MOH, and the Master of Ceremonies may well introduce you as the MOH, so you don’t really need to explicitly state that you are. They are unlikely to mistake you for any other speaker!

5) By using this touching beginning you have laid a marvelous foundation for the rest. People are liking you. You started a “wave” of positive feeling in the room, and you can use that first small wave to move on to other, bigger waves later in your speech. You have conveyed to the audience much more emotion and emotional connectivity!

This is just one short sentence and you can see how much more powerful and brimming with subtle benefits the second version is. Imagine the opportunities that you have in a whole 5-8 minutes!

 

If you can see the difference that these small differences can make, then you might appreciate the extra value that professionally written speeches can bring.  Although the focus here is on “How to write a Maid of Honor speech” yourself, you might like to look at professional packs which contain more detailed advice and various products that save you time and help prepare a great speech quickly.  Anyway, those links are below, but for now let’s continue with the “how to” guide….

 

So that’s going to be a great start, and you can move on to the other sections keeping the same things in mind.

How we met

Describe the scene where the bride came into your life

How she made you feel

How did you feel about the bride when you met versus how you feel about her now

Make a link to a good toast

…and because of those special feelings I want make sure that I give you a heartfelt public toast on your special day.

Toast quote

Get yourself a nice toast that suits you and them, and you are done.

 

By the way, if you are sister of the bride you might like to read our “sister specific” speech advice.
If you are a friend of the bride you might want to look at our professional advice for friends.

How to Write a Maid of Honor speech (Longer format)

Introduction (same as for short version, see above)

How we met  (same as for short version, but included here for completeness)

Describe the scene where the bride came into your life

How she made you feel  (same as for short version, but included here for completeness)

How did you feel about the bride when you met versus how you feel about her now

Tell a (humorous) story about the bride

Try to find at least a semi-amusing story about the bride.  You don’t need to have them rolling in the aisles with laughter, but if you can find a giggle or two it will add quite some pizzazz.  A little humor can go a long way.

 

Tell a story about the bride’s husband

You know him right?  Give the guests the lowdown on how your relationship with him developed….assuming it developed well of course!

Make a link to a good toast  (same as for short version, but included here for completeness)

…and because of those special feelings I want make sure that I give you a heartfelt public toast on your special day.

Toast quote

Get yourself a nice toast that suits you and them, and you are finished! Well done!

Of course you can make improvements on these examples, but we wanted to give you something that gets you started and you can build on.

 

There you go!  That should get you started.  Good Luck!

P.S. If you thought this was useful, please consider a +1 or a Like….they are sometimes the best reward. Thanks! 🙂

 

By the way, you might also be interested in our professional speech packs.  Each one is customised for a specific maid (friend, older sister, and younger sister).  Our “Speeches Made Easy” speech packs save time and make your speech prep much easier….

 

The packs provide much more professional detail about writing and delivering your speech, along with plenty of examples and jokes.

 

10 Professional Maid of Honor “Friend” or “Sister” Speeches

10 Big Sister Speeches (for older sister maids)

10 Younger Sister Speeches (for younger sister maids)

Professional “sister focused” funny speech examples

Plus “sister specific” giggle inducing jokes pack

130 hilarious personality trait testimonials (talkative, fun, organized, etc)

 

For “Friend” Maids

https://speechesmadeeasy.com/fast-friend (for “friend” maids)

 ……and in the interests of balance, I reviewed some competitor products too.  Of course I believe ours are the best.  Well, I would say that wouldn’t I.  🙂    That said, one of the packs below is worth consideration if you really don’t like the look of ours…but I’ll leave that up to you!

 

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My Review of the Best Sources of

Maid of Honor Speech Examples

 

The layout I give you above is a pretty good start, but sometimes it’s helpful to have more options.

I know you like speech templates that you can use to help write your own speech. So I thought it would be useful if I purchased and reviewed 3 of the best sources you will find on the internet.

So you know if they are useful or not.

I bought these products with my own money (no influence from the vendors). I looked at each one in detail, and I will give you my opinion of which is the best.

This is an honest review. I am not recommending a product because it pays more money. I really believe that the recommended product is the best for you.

I looked at 3 paid sites.

Summary

You can find hundreds of examples on the internet, but how many templates do you really need?

Each of the paid sites has 20+ good Maid of Honor speech examples (which is enough for you to make one good speech), and because they are written by professional writers they contain extra finesse.

All 3 paid sites will save you time, and for roughly 25 dollars, it’s worth it.

Of the paid sources, the one I most recommend is…….wait for it……

http://www.weddingspeech4u.com/maidofhonor/maid-of-honor-speeches.php

 

Why?
1) Because their speeches have a little greater depth and quality…they are (in my opinion) slightly better than the other two sites I reviewed.

2) Their pre-speech preparation advice is comprehensive and offers genuine helpful advice that you can use.

3) They had the easiest purchase and download process.

….for more detail, read on!

 

Note: I also tested all the paid sites on their refund option (I didn’t tell them I was reviewing). You want to be sure you get you cash back right? I am pleased to report that all 3 refunded the money, no problems.

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http://www.weddingspeech4u.com/maidofhonor/maid-of-honor-speeches.php

Order Process
Instant access after payment
Easy download

Quality of Main Product
Excellent
Maid of Honor Speech examples are correct length with balanced style and delivery
20+ good examples that you can mix and match to suit your situation
Useful and practical preparation advice
Many toasts and topical quotes that can add value to your speech

 

Upsell Option (and quality of upsell)
Yes, 9.95 for 10 extra Maid of Honor speeches

Good quality (like the main speeches)
The first 20 speeches you get are probably enough for you. However if you like having extra options and PLENTY to read then the 9.95 is worth it.

Trustworthiness & Honest Description
Products as described

Guarantee Period
60 Days

How do I get my money back?
Via ClickBank

Support From Vendor

Refund request processed quickly and without questions

Overall
5 Stars – The best of the products on offer

 

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http://www.ultimatespeeches.org/maidofhonor/

Order Process
Had to click through quite a few pages to get through complete process (it felt like a few too many)
Payment confirmations received quickly
Product arrived after roughly 30 mins (which felt a bit too long to me)
In the end, the product was delivered as described

Quality of Main Product
Good
Examples are pretty good quality, with varied style, sometimes a little short (in my opinion), but overall useful
20+ good examples that you can mix and match to suit your situation
Reasonably useful and practical preparation advice
Some wedding toasts and a few quotes
Quality lowered slightly by strange addition of internet money making scheme

 

Upsell Option (and quality of upsell)
Yes, 5 dollars for 101 extra toasts and quotes, and a speech preparation guide
Quality is good, and if you buy this product, you should spend the extra 5 dollars (25 dollars total).

Trustworthiness & Honest Description
Products generally as described, but some of the advertised benefits are contained in the upsell rather than the main product

Guarantee Period
58 Days

Support From Vendor
Refund request processed quickly and without questions
Good treatment

Overall
4 Stars – A decent product that will help your preparation, and if you like this more than the others you will be fine.

 

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http://www.maidofhonorspeechesandtoasts.com/

Order Process
Overall OK
Payment confirmations received quickly
I had to wait a few minutes for a slightly strange email after payment, asking me to give my permission for them to send the information. I had to click on an extra link in the email, which added me to an email distribution list (I unsubscribed later)
Product and bonuses were accessible after that in ZIP format (you will need to open ZIP files)

 

Quality of Main Product
Good speeches, they are of good quality and good length with varied style
20+ good examples that you can mix and match to suit your situation
Reasonably useful and practical preparation advice, although the preparation advice is less than I expected after reading the sales page
Plenty of wedding toasts and relevant wedding quotes

 

Upsell Option (and quality of upsell)
Yes, 9.95 dollars for 10 extra Maid of Honor speech examples

Plus extra upsell option of 20 dollars for 10 extra speech templates AND speech packs for all the other speakers at the wedding (i.e. Father of Bride, Best Man, etc.).

Good quality (like the main Maid of Honor speech examples)
The first 20 speeches you get are probably enough for you. However if you like having extra options then the 9.95 is worth it.

I don’t think it’s worth the 20 dollars to get speech packs for the other roles. There is significant overlap with the original product, and those  other people at the wedding will be looking after themselves. Save the 10$ for something else.

Trustworthiness & Honest Description
I feel the sales page over promises what the content delivers. The sales page talks about “insider secrets” and “mastering” (in one afternoon) the “system of speech seduction”. I couldn’t see any of this in the product I received.

It’s a good collection of Maid of Honor speeches with some sensible practical advice and quotes thrown in. You should ignore the wild and racy sales text and focus on the actual products you will get. Then you won’t be disappointed if you buy this product.

Guarantee Period
2 months

Support From Vendor
Refund request processed quickly and without questions

Overall
4 Stars – A good product that will help with your Maid of Honor speech preparation and with quick “no questions” support, just don’t get carried away with the sales page.

 

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